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Anti-Bullying Training for Kids and Teens
Sensei Bully: Anti-Bullying Training Without Becoming One
If you searched sensei bully, you might be looking for something specific: a coach who teaches real protection skills, without teaching aggression.
This page is a simple playbook. It shows what we practice in class and what you can rehearse at home so your child can stay calm, set boundaries, get away, and get help.
Note: This is skill-building and safety education. Follow your school rules and involve a trusted adult. If your child is in immediate danger, contact local authorities.
What Sensei Bully Means Here
Sensei Bully is a nickname for the problem we are solving, not the person we are becoming. Bullying usually works because of pressure: awkward moments, loud energy, hands on clothing, a crowd watching, or a kid freezing and hoping it ends.
Our approach is simple: build calm confidence through rehearsed words, body positioning, and safe get-away skills. Your child learns how to end the moment, not win the moment.
The goal
Get to safety. Keep dignity. Use minimal force. Involve adults early.
The Sensei Bully Protocol
A repeatable script for real situations. We train it like a fire drill.
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Stand Tall
Feet under hips, shoulders back, chin level. Hands up like a fence (non-threatening, ready to protect). We practice this posture until it feels normal.
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Set the Line (Strong Voice)
Short phrases, loud enough for witnesses: Stop. Back up. I said no. Eye contact, then look for an exit.
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Create Space
If there is grabbing or crowding, we use safe grips, frames, and movement to make space. No punching. No kicking. The job is distance and escape.
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Leave and Tell
Exit to a safe adult. Name the place, time, and what happened. Tell is safety, not tattling.
Skills We Build (What Your Child Actually Learns)
Boundary Voice
Short, clear words with volume, eye-line, and steady breathing.
Calm Body Language
Posture, stance, and hands that say I am not a target, without escalating.
Distance Management
How to stay out of grabbing range and how to move toward safety.
Grip Safety
Simple, non-violent ways to peel hands off sleeves, wrists, or backpack straps.
Safe Falling
Basic breakfalls so a shove does not become a bigger injury.
Get-Up Skills
How to create space from the ground and stand up safely.
Clinch Safety
Close control to reduce damage if someone is swinging, then exit when safe.
Minimal Force Mindset
Control and escape, not punishment. Stop the situation, then disengage.
Report With Details
Who, what, where, when. Calm story, clear facts, quick adult help.
Key At-Home Drills (10 Minutes, 2 to 3 Times a Week)
These are short rehearsals. Keep them light. Keep them consistent.
1) Boundary Lines Role-Play
- Practice saying: Stop. Back up. I said no.
- Coach posture: feet planted, shoulders back, hands up like a fence.
- Finish every rep with an exit: step away and tell an adult.
2) The Fence Hands
- Hands up at chest height, palms slightly forward.
- Looks non-threatening, works as a shield if someone rushes in.
- Pair it with one clear sentence: Stop. Back up.
3) Hip Slide Escape (Ground Space Builder)
- Lie on your back, heels close to your hips.
- Lift hips, slide your hips to the side.
- Goal: make space, then move toward standing.
4) Frame, Slide, Stand
- Forearms in front like a shield (frames), elbows tight.
- Hip slide to create space.
- Stand up with balance and eyes forward; do not turn your back.
5) The Safety Clinch (No Striking Goal)
- Practice stepping in close with head safe and arms tight.
- Goal is to reduce damage if someone is flailing.
- Then practice the exit: create space and leave.
6) The Backpack Grab Release
- Practice turning to face the grab, hands on the grabbing hand.
- Peel the grip, step back, fence hands up, exit.
- End with: I am going to an adult now.
Keep drills supervised. For younger kids, make it a game. For teens, keep it realistic and calm.
5 Rules of Engagement (Simple, Memorable, Safe)
- Avoid the fight whenever possible. Move toward people, cameras, and adults.
- If words happen: use a strong boundary voice and leave.
- If hands happen: protect yourself, create space, and exit.
- No punching or kicking: our default is control and escape, not damage.
- Minimal force, then disengage: the moment you can leave safely, you leave.
Tips for Parents (What Works in Real Life)
Teach Tell vs Tattle
Reporting is about safety and patterns. Make it normal. Practice the sentence: I need help. This keeps happening.
Short Practice Beats Long Practice
8 to 12 minutes, a few times a week, builds automatic confidence faster than a rare long session.
Rehearse the Exit
Most kids can say the words, but forget to leave. Every drill ends with movement to safety.
Track the Pattern
If it repeats, note dates, places, and names. Patterns get taken seriously.
Want help customizing this?
Private coaching can be tailored to your child's exact scenario (age, school setting, personality, and comfort level).
Explore private coachingFAQ
Is this a fight training program?
No. This is anti-bullying skill training focused on boundaries, escape, and safe control when necessary. We keep the goal on safety and leaving, not winning.
Why no punching or kicking?
Striking escalates situations fast and increases injury risk. We teach options that reduce harm and create a safe exit.
What age is best for this?
Kids and teens can start building these habits now. The drills change by age, but the core is the same: strong voice, strong posture, safe exit.
What if my child freezes?
That is normal. We train short scripts and repeatable movements so their body has a plan when their mind is stressed.
Does this help with confidence?
Yes. Confidence comes from rehearsal. When a child knows what to say and what to do, posture and voice change.
How do I start?
Start with a first class, or choose private coaching if you want a custom plan. Either way, you leave with a clear next step.